What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.

And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”

When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general. Jennifer Wright, “Lady, You Really Aren’t ‘Crazy’”  (via lullabysounds)

(Source: sparkamovement, via lullabysounds)

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You are still here, you are still happy
You are still smiling and laughing 

You are still the only thing
and everything I need in my life 

When I am sad, oh god I am sad
but when I’m happy, I am happy 

and there’s just no place in-between
for us to meet

(Source: nylander, via lullabysounds)

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The MenzingersI Don’t Wanna Be An Asshole Anymore  (new song off of their upcoming record “Rented World” due out April 22nd via Epitaph Records)

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